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How long to talk before you meet

A practical order: a few messages, a video call, then a daytime meeting in a public place.
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You might never meet, and that can still have been a good flirt. If you do want to, wait until the messages feel like the same person each time. A few conversations and, if you like, a video call are enough for a coffee. They are not a contract.

Notice what they do with the time. A real person can talk about the thing you asked. A profile that rushes you off the site, or towards money, is in a hurry for a reason. Spotting a fake profile is that hurry. Meeting safely is the public place, when you choose one.

You can like the chat and still say no to meeting. Say it once, clearly. If they argue, stop. How to block and report is there for the argument that will not end.

There is no charge for taking your time. We will never ask you for a fee to keep flirting, or to turn a flirt into a meeting.

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